For the last 8 years, I have respected Kerry more than any man I know. For the first 2 of those years, we were just friends. Now he’s my best friend and my husband. When he is concerned about an area of my life, I listen. It only makes sense to do so. So, he brought the amount of time I spend on Facebook, my stated reasons for being on Facebook, and the dangers of Facebook to my attention and together we have decided that:
1. Being on Facebook to “stay connected” to people (many of whom I haven’t seen in 10+ years) takes away from the relationships right in front of me. I’m browsing through my NewsFeed and telling my 4-year olds, “Just a minute!” That is seriously absurd. My old friends from junior high simply do not deserve my undivided attention. My kids do. My husband does. If you are sitting in my living room, you most certainly do. Rich relationships is what I’m about. Being away from excessive media helps me to enjoy them.
2. My phone, my main source of Facebook viewing, is too close too me. At best, it is my closest companion. At worst, it is an extension of my person. While we were on our 15 day vacation, I chose to have my phone turned off for all but 3 of those days. At first, I didn’t know what to do with my hands or how to spend down time. But, by the middle of it, I found myself engaging with the people around me on a deeper level. By the end, I didn’t even want to turn my phone back on. I don’t want my kids to remember me with a phone in my hand. I just don’t.
3. The world does not need to know everything about me or my family. Private moments that used to be reserved for only you and your closest of kin are now broadcast on Facebook to see if we can get 100 likes (that, of course, is an unstated reason- no one really owns up to that motivation). My grandpa, who lives in AZ, was just visiting our house this week. He tried to tell me a story and I INTERRUPTED HIM saying, “Oh yeah, I know. I saw that on Facebook.” He was very polite, but also disappointed. “Wow. I can’t even tell my granddaughter something in real life anymore because Facebook has beat me to it.” It’s the truth, and I’m ashamed of it.
4. Many of the people Kerry and I look to as role models spend very little, if any, time on Facebook. We have limited time to make an impact on this earth. Since becoming a parent, I have been made much more aware of how fast time really goes. I can confidently say every moment counts. Getting off Facebook frees me up to accomplish the goals God has put in my heart.
5. I kinda wanna be a hipster. Facebook is too trendy for me. Okay, so that’s not REALLY a reason… But it is true that I do not want to do anything just because everyone else is doing it. Rebelling against the status quo, I mean, it’s just part of who I am. 😉
(Please note that just because this is what Kerry and I feel is best for us does not mean I am judging the rest of the world that stays on. Truth be told, I will miss seeing pregnancy and engagement announcements. I will miss seeing the funny things kids say. I will miss being in the loop. But that’s okay. There once was a world without Facebook, and we all survived just fine.)